We experience emotional distress in all kinds of forms, such as sadness, anxiety , addictions, unproductive obsessions, unwanted compulsions, repetitive self-sabotaging behaviors, physical ailments, boredom, and various angry, gloomy, and agitated moods Reiki.
What helps alleviate this anxiety? What helps a person heal? Mental health systems as they are currently constituted say that the following two things help the most: medication and talk therapy. Those two aside, what else helps? Here are 10 tips for emotional healing:
- Be yourself
You must be yourself. This means asking for what you want, setting boundaries, having your own beliefs and opinions, standing up for your values, wearing the clothes you want to wear, eating the food you want to eat, saying the things you want to say; and in many other ways to be you and not someone small or fake.
- Invent yourself
You have certain attributes, abilities and inclinations and you are molded in a certain environment. But at some point you have to say, “Okay, this is what is original to me and this is how I have formed myself, but now, who do I want to be? ” You reduce your emotional distress by deciding to become a person who will experience less distress. emotional: a calmer person, a less critical person, a less selfish person, a more productive person, a less abusive person , etc.
- Love and be loved
Part of our nature requires solitude , time alone, and substantial robust individualism. But this is not the whole story of our nature. We feel happier, warmer and better, we live longer and experience life as more meaningful if we love and let ourselves be loved. We must be individuals (see points 1 and 2) but we must also relate. To do both, be ourselves and relate, we need to recognize the reality of others, include others in our plans, not only talk but listen, and strive to eliminate our most egregious defects and grow.
- Gain control over your mind
Nothing causes more emotional distress than the thoughts we have. We must do a better job than we normally do of identifying thoughts that do not serve us, disputing them, demanding they go away, and replacing them with more useful thoughts. Thinking thoughts that do not serve you is the equivalent of serving yourself emotional distress. Only you can control your mind; If you don’t do that work, you will live in anguish.
- Forget about the past
We are not so completely in control of our being that we can prevent past pain points from returning. They have a way of bothering us in the form of anxious sweats, nightmares, sudden sadness, and waves of anger or defeat. However, we can try to exorcise the past by not giving in to our human tendency to wallow there. We must tell ourselves that we must go ahead and do it. If you have a secret attachment to misery, you will feel miserable. As best you can, imperfectly but with real energy, let go of the past and forget the past.
- Turn off the anxiety switch
Rampant anxiety ruins our balance, colors our mood, and makes all the already difficult tasks of living that much more difficult. There are many anxiety management strategies you may want to try: breathing techniques, cognitive techniques, relaxation techniques, etc., but what will make all the difference is if you can locate that “internal switch” that controls your anxious nature and, decide that you prefer to live more calmly, turning it off. With a gesture you announce that you will stop overdramatizing, that you will no longer catastrophize, that you no longer live in fear of life or that you will create unnecessary anxiety for yourself.
- Meaning
Meaning is nothing more arcane than a certain type of subjective psychological experience. We can have much more meaning in our lives if we stop searching for it, as if it were lost or as if someone knew more about it than we do, and realize that it is in our power to influence the meaning and even make it happen. By making daily meaning investments and seizing daily meaning opportunities, we keep meaning crises at bay and experience life as meaningful. Meaning problems produce severe emotional distress, and learning the art of value-based meaning making dramatically reduces that distress.
- Let meaning trump mood
You may decide that the meaning you make is more important to you than the mood you are in. Instead of saying “I’m sad today” you say, “I have to build my business” or “I have to write my novel.” You start each day by telling yourself exactly how you plan to make sense of that day, how you plan to deal with routine tasks and chores, how you plan to relax, how, in short, you want to spend the day, and you consider all of that, both the rich and the rich. mundane, like the project of your life, one that you are living with grace and good humor . You reduce your emotional distress by checking your intentions more and your mood less.
- Improve your personality
You may not be the person you would like to be. You can be angrier than you would like to be, more impulsive, more scattered, more self-sabotaging, more undisciplined, more afraid. If so, you need a personality upgrade, which of course only you can supply. You choose a characteristic of your personality that you would like to actualize and then ask yourself, what thoughts align with this intention and what actions align with this intention? Then you think the appropriate thoughts and take the necessary action. In this way you become the person capable of reducing your emotional distress.
- Coping with circumstances
Would you experience more distress sunbathing on the beach or facing a long prison sentence? Circumstances matter. Our economic circumstances are important; our relationships are important; our working conditions are important; our health is important; whether our nation is at peace or occupied by invaders. Many circumstances are completely out of our control and many are within our control. We can change jobs or careers , we can get divorced, we can reduce our calorie intake, we can stand up or shut up, we can do exactly anything we can do to improve our circumstances. As a result of these improvements, we feel better emotionally. Emotional healing requires you to take real action in the real world.